10% Happier with Dan Harris
10% Happier with Dan Harris

How to Engage Corona-Deniers (and Other Ethical Dilemmas)

So many of us have people in our lives who we feel are not taking this pandemic seriously enough. How do we handle them? Yell, lecture, call them out on Twitter? What about flooding them with articles? Or is there a saner course of action that is likely to be more effective? In this episode, we have

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Executive Summary: Dan Harris speaks with Joanna Hardy and Greg Epstein about applying Buddhist and humanist ethics to COVID-19 dilemmas. They emphasize compassion, intention, and non-harm over shaming, arguing that effective responses to panic, denial, hoarding, and rule-breaking require empathy, firm boundaries, and self-compassion.

Main Topics: Ethics frameworks: Buddhist and humanist views: Joanna Hardy outlines Buddhist ethics through the five precepts and non-harm; Greg Epstein describes humanism as a call to mutual care, truth, and cooperation without religion. How to talk to COVID deniers or rule-breakers: The discussion centers on whether to confront, lecture, or empathize with people not taking the pandemic seriously, with both guests favoring compassionate, timely conversations over outrage alone. Hoarding, scarcity, and toilet paper: They examine the ethics of stockpiling supplies, arguing that fear-driven overbuying ignores communal responsibility and the reality that taking more than needed deprives others. Leaving cities for suburbs or second homes: The guests debate whether affluent people should relocate for safety, with concern that such moves may burden rural areas and reflect privilege-driven comfort seeking. Breaking distancing rules for affection: They discuss emotionally understandable but risky rule-breaking, especially family hugs and visits, and conclude that renunciation and delay can serve the greater good. Self-compassion and emotional regulation: Both guests stress that fear, anger, loneliness, and guilt are normal during crisis and that people need self-compassion to avoid spiraling into harmful behavior.

Key Arguments: Buddhist ethics are practical guidelines rooted in non-harm: not killing, not stealing, wise sexuality, wise speech, and avoiding intoxicants that lead to heedlessness. Humanist ethics are also grounded in interdependence: people should aim for love, care, connection, truth, and understanding because these make life worthwhile. When confronting someone who is not taking COVID seriously, compassion and timing matter more than flooding them with articles or publicly shaming them. Fear can drive hoarding and selfish behavior; asking why you are buying, moving, or acting helps reveal whether the motivation is genuine need or panic. Even when people make imperfect choices during crisis, self-compassion is necessary because everyone is adapting to a rapidly changed world. Firm boundaries are not the opposite of mindfulness; practitioners can be kind and still say no, especially when health and safety are at stake. Empathy is useful even toward deniers or reckless people, but it should be paired with clear consequences and accountability for harmful actions. Relocating from crowded cities for personal comfort can be ethically questionable when it increases strain on other communities and healthcare systems. Delaying immediate gratification, including physical affection or unnecessary shopping, can be a meaningful ethical practice during a pandemic. A good ethical test is whether an action creates regret, cognitive dissonance, or a sense of heaviness versus the relief of acting in alignment with one’s values.

Data Points: 10% Happier Live time: 3 Eastern / noon Pacific - Daily weekday live meditation and Q&A sessions promoted in the introduction. Podcast frequency: Twice a week - Dan Harris notes the podcast workload has increased and the show is now released twice weekly. Sabbatical length: 1 year - Greg Epstein says he took a year-long sabbatical to research ethics in the technology industry. Humanist chaplain tenure at Harvard: Since 2005 - Greg Epstein identifies himself as Harvard’s humanist chaplain since 2005. Humanist chaplain role at MIT: A couple of years - Epstein says he has also served at MIT for the last couple of years. Five precepts: 5 - Joanna Hardy summarizes Buddhist ethics through five basic precepts. Daily curve-flattening goal: Flatten the curve - Epstein invokes the public-health imperative of reducing spread, not a numerical metric but a repeated policy goal.

Pivotal Quotes: "What are we taking care of?" — Joanna Hardy: She uses this as a framing question for ethics during COVID-19, especially around scarcity, distancing, and social responsibility. "You are not required to complete the work, but neither are you free to desist from it." — Greg Epstein: He cites a Talmudic saying to explain that people should strive to help even if they cannot do everything perfectly. "I have a geopolitical case for you to get your shit together." — Dan Harris: He argues that personal meditation and mental health are forms of civic responsibility, tying self-regulation to better social outcomes.

Implications: The episode encourages listeners to replace shame and panic with empathy, clear boundaries, and self-awareness. It suggests ethical behavior in crises depends less on perfection than on intention, restraint, and care for collective well-being.

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